Even people with the best intentions can find themselves in the middle of controversy. In creative arts ministries, many participants are passionate and expressive. This passion can often move beyond choreography and can lead to very active conversation. One of the most destructive forces in relationships and ministries can be idle words. Our most trusted friends can become our most vehement accusers. This does not mean that we must walk in fear when sharing our concerns with others, but we must exercise wisdom when we speak.
Wisdom teaches us when to speak and when to be quiet. We do not have to offer commentary for every subject that arises. In dance ministry rehearsals, one complaint or remark can be stopped if no one offers an affirming response. As soon as someone starts spouting negative commentary about garments, choreography, schedules, and fellow team members, we can quell the voice of division when we choose to take the high road.
Disagreements with fellow dancers may make us curious to hear about what has befallen them. Instead of praying for others, it may be tempting to think that the Lord is taking revenge on our behalfs. We each have our own share of repenting to do. Instead of spreading the word about the latest news concerning "them," we should be even more diligent to watch and pray for each other. When we govern ourselves and our mouths according to righteousness, we will discover that we are peacemakers and thus blessed.
Psalm 101:5 (NKJV)
Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, him I will destroy; The one who has a haughty look and a proud heart, him I will not endure.
Proverbs 11:13 (NKJV)
A talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter.
Proverbs 25:9 (NKJV)
Debate your case with your neighbor, and do not disclose the secret to another
Luke 12:3 (NKJV)
Therefore whatever you have spoken in the dark will be heard in the light, and what you have spoken in the ear in inner rooms will be proclaimed on the housetops.